I reject the concept of virginity, because having sex for the first time doesn’t mean “losing” anything. Why do we consider our first experience with everything else to be a first experience, but with sex for some reason we magically “lose” something? It’s bullshit and it’s straight up slut shaming. We don’t magically become ‘impure’ or ‘corrupted’ when we have sex for the first time. Why do we need a separate word for what we are before we’ve ever had sex?
Not only is the concept of virginity slut-shaming and sexist, it’s extremely heteronormative. Society would see someone who’s had oral sex as still a virgin, but once you’ve had a penis stuck inside of you, you say goodbye to your virginity forever. When we
re growing up, we’re taught that virginity means penis-in-vagina and nothing else, which means that some people might even consider people who had had anal sex to still be virgins.
I prefer to think of “losing my virginity” as having my sexual debut, because that’s what it is. It’s not “losing” anything. It’s simply gaining the experience of having sex.
The entire concept of virginity is total nonsensical bullshit."